“What a Woman Needs to
Know about Male Sexual
What a Women Need to Know about Male Sexual Addiction is a very enlightening book for women. It provides women with a solid understanding of male sexual addiction. The book offers illuminating answers to their compelling questions. They include the need to know how and when sexual addiction began, the characteristics of a sexually addicted person, the role of the sex addiction cycle and acting out ritual in fostering addictive behaviour, and whether there is hope for recovery. The book also offers insights into the barriers to recovery, such as the functions of anxiety, isolation, co-dependency, depression, procrastination, sexual thinking and fantasy, and anger in pursuing offensive behaviour. This work focuses on these questions and much more.
A woman rarely has a need to understand the origin and consequences of male sexual addiction until someone close is found to exhibit sex addictive behaviors. Each chapter reveals aspects of sexual addiction, all to help a woman decide how she will live subsequent to disclosure of her partner’s addiction.
The reaction a woman experiences upon discovery of her man’s secrets is traumatic. She may be so outraged that her immediate thoughts include divorce. However, most women are simply too traumatized to make a rational decision at the time of discovery. Ultimately, the woman will have to make a choice to proceed with a divorce or support her partner’s recovery. The solution for each couple may be different.
Some men are able to end acting-out behavior quickly. However, each man is unique; each man came out of childhood with varying degrees of brokenness. Experience confirms a rough correlation between the degree of brokenness he experienced during childhood and his ability to give up his dysfunctional behavior. If your partner experienced prolonged and perverse sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, damage is deep; recovery will not be quick. Carnes (1991) research and considerable clinical experience postulates thirty specific recovery tasks, including individual and group counseling, working the Twelve Step program, and involving the family in the recovery program. Bradshaw (1988) proposes three stages of recovery. In the first page, the addict addresses the primary addiction. In the second, he addresses co-dependency. In second stage, he will get in touch with feelings, forgiveness, and working on the inner child. In the third stage, he addresses spiritual awakening and empowerment. Both men agree that recovery can be a long process.