Sexual addiction is society’s growing plague

Modern society, especially the entertainment sector, is notorious for glamorizing bad sexual behavior. Many movies and TV soaps use sex as a major storyline, and some visual media incorporate a bed scene to make the subplot more exciting. Books and magazines put scantily-clad personalities on the cover, while songs and music videos celebrate sexually addictive behavior. It is no wonder sexual addiction, especially in males, is on the rise due to high media usage.

 

Spotting a sexually addicted person

Given our ethically challenged, digitally connected society, it is not difficult for men and women to develop such an unhealthy behavior. In the United States alone, an estimated 12 to 30 million people have sexual addiction.

The stats do scare you, right? Of course, that’s almost equivalent to a developing country’s population. But what’s more scary is that, due to that large number, you could be one of them – and you may not know it. Or if not, perhaps someone you know.

How would you know if you or someone you know suffers from sexual addiction? Sex addicts are usually:

  •  Preoccupied with sexual addiction – Call them obsessed with sex, if you must. Sex addicts cannot stop thinking and talking about sex. Their unhealthy attachment to the subject causes them to lose focus or interest in activities other than sex, which becomes the focal point of their life just like what drugs are to drug addicts and food to binge eaters.
  • Consumers of pornographic media – Sex addicts need to consume media to support their addiction. They spend money on magazines such as Playboy and subscribe to pornographic channels. If that’s not enough, they may even visit adult video stores and strip clubs.
  • Depressive and moody – Sex addicts experience various mood swings. They may alternately feel depressed, then excited. When they’re in a manic state, they become consumed by their lustful desires. However, sex addicts may withdraw or become frustrated over their inability to curb their behavior.
  • Afraid of being abandoned – Sex addicts fear being abandoned by their partners, which is why they will choose to remain in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. Or else, they may jump from partner to partner, which cause people to label sex addicts as promiscuous. When they are alone, they feel empty or incomplete.
  • Victims of abuse – Sex addicts tend to be victims of incest or molestation. They feel hatred towards family members who victimize them or fail to do something about the abuse they have suffered. This drives them to mistrust people and renders them unable to start an intimate, long-term relationship.
  • Living a double life – Sex addicts do everything they can to hide or deny about their sexual addiction from family and friends. They even resort to lying.
  • Irritable – Sex addicts are resistant to criticism and supervision from other people. They become short-tempered and defensive whenever people confront them about their sexually addictive behavior, thus it is nearly impossible to help them. They even react angrily to simple statements and questions in an attempt to hide their behavior.

Spot the characteristics in yourself (admit it!) or in people you know? If yes, seek professional help for yourself or your acquaintance. There is help for people who suffer from sexual addiction.

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