We are all aware that too much of anything can be unhealthy. Too much use of a drug can lead to side-effects, overdose, dosage tolerance and addiction. However, when drugs are used in moderation and in the correct prescribed dosage, they can be life-saving remedies for us. When talking about addiction, most of us immediately connote it with illegal drugs and substances. We may not know it, but addiction is not limited to drugs and substances. The common things around us and even our everyday activities can sometimes be addicting. Take for example TV addiction, internet addiction, social media addiction, online gaming addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and many more. Let us talk about the seemingly overlooked addiction: sexual addiction, particularly male sexual addiction. This topic seems mostly overlooked nowadays because our society has deemed men as the more sexually dominant gender. Many of us may think that having a hyperactive sexuality and sexual life in men are signs of virility and male dominance. But little do we know, especially women, that male sexual addiction is a real and alarming issue hidden in the veil of the “macho” culture.

Let us first define male sexual addiction. Male sexual addiction refers to a range of sexual behaviors that are done in excess and significantly impact one’s life in a negative way. We all know that sex is a universally practiced private and sacred act of procreation between a man and a woman. When sex is done in moderation and done properly, it can bring countless benefits to the people engaging in it. So when does it become an addiction? Going back to the definition, sexual addiction especially in males happens when it is done in excess and improperly. How can you tell if a man is suffering from male sexual addiction? All forms of addiction involve the mind. It’s most common features are dependency, unnatural euphoria and withdrawal symptoms. Many different male sexual addiction books, psychology books and psychologists themselves have different signs and symptoms to indicate sexual addiction. Below are the most common telltale signs of male addiction.

  • If your man or a man you know engages in sexual activities that are beyond the normal and acceptable levels, it may be a cause for alarm.
  • When there is no particular mood or trigger for sex or sexual activity, but he somehow finds arousal and engages in compulsive sexual behavior.
  • When sex and sexual activities become routinary and habitual for him, no matter what the situation is.
  • When he performs sex in an emotionally detached way, devoid of expression or connection with his partner.
  • Multiple sexual partners. Due to their inability to control their sexual impulses, male sexual addicts tend to engage in multiple affairs, multiple one-night stands and multiple sexual partners.
  • When he patronizes prostitution or engages in prostitution itself to achieve sexual gratification.
  • Chronic engagement in sexual harassment, or a history of rape or molestation.
  • Compulsive self-stimulation (masturbation) and finding it more gratifying than sex.
  • Persistent use of pornography or obsessive use of online dating ads
  • Sexual rage disorder (distress, anxiety, restlessness and violence) manifesting when unable to engage in their addiction.

What are the causes of male sexual addiction? The causes can be categorized as biological, psychological and social. Biologically, some men have genes that are predisposed to emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, or sensation-seeking behavior, which are associated with sexual addiction. Psychologically, adverse life events like sexual abuse and constant exposure to sexual content can contribute to sexually addictive behavior. In the social category, rejection (especially in relationships) and social isolation can lead to unhealthy ways of finding sexual gratification.

Can male sexual addiction be treated? Yes, sex addiction can be treated. You will typically want to speak with a mental health professional, like a psychologist or licensed social worker. They will help people address some of the underlying factors that are maintaining their sex addiction, and teach them to cope with their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in a healthy way. Of course, the will to change for the better should start from the afflicted if he wants to be treated. The road to sexual addiction recovery might be difficult, but through the support of a sexual addict’s loved ones and significant other, recovery is possible.

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